Don't stay in toxic or abusive relationships

 If you are in a toxic or abusive relationship don't stay. Get out as fast as you can. Find help to get out of the situation. Some people say well I am staying for my kids. Don't stay for the kids because that is unhealthy for them to see you be physically or mentally abused. Kids are not stupid.  Kids can heal quicker than adults because they have more time to heal.  Don't make them suffer.  They also think those are the relationships that you should have as they grow up.  As people we need to set boundaries. Don't let people use us, walk all over us, manipulate, cheat, lie, talk down to us, hold stuff over our heads, kick us while we're down, and the list goes on. Start telling these people how they make you feel.  Don't sugar coat it. Don't walk on egg shells for the rest of your life. Don't make it to where they make you depend on them because they want that control and to isolate you from family and friends. Have a separate banking account so if you are in a situation like this you can leave or if you can't have a bank account hide the money elsewhere. Get help to get out if you really need help getting out. I know you might be terrified for your life or they have done a real number on you. Don't stay just because you think you have nowhere to go. Ask around about places that might help assist you.  You deserve a good life filled with happiness,  love, and acceptance.  You do not deserve someone who treats you bad or abuses you. Family and friends if you see this going on try to help. I know you can't save those who don't want saved. Report it if you see it because what if it ends up being something you could have put a stop to. No one is worth losing family, friends, or anything. Being mentally,  physically,  or any abuse of any form is not right.  Get help from a therapist, police,  or other people you might think may help.  Use your voice. You will survive even if you think you won't survive.  You will learn to heal. You will find ways to cope in your own way.  No, you won't get over it. Yes things will trigger you.  You do things a day at a time hour by hour and minute by minute.  You will have melt downs and feel like you can't climb out of that abyss. Find a support group or things you enjoy doing. Writing,  music, art, walks, or other things may help with healing.

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