Amy Stark's Books

 When it comes to men and women being abused both sexes are both mentally,physically, and sexually abused. When it comes to men though it isn't talked about as much. People make it out like it doesn't happen to them or like they deserve it. No one man or woman deserves any type of abuse. It isn't funny.  It should not be normalized. It should not be swept under the rug. Each sex should be able to talk about their feelings freely and feel safe to do so. They should not be judged for what happened to them and I have first hand seen people laugh, be cruel, and make jokes about it. It isn't a joking matter. People should be ashamed of making fun of people who have been abused. It shouldn't be society normalized. It causes depression,  anxiety,  PTSD, and other disorders. Some become suicidal and commit suicide because cruel people. Stop feeding off of people's trauma. 

 Sometimes things in life get rough and we get overwhelmed. Don't stop living your best life. I understand it hurts.  Do what you have to do to heal and cope. Get help. If you need a therapist or medication Don't believe what the world had to say about it. Even if you have had crappy experiences with one therapist or different medications doesn't mean there isn't a match for you. If you don't want medication look into different coping skills or types of therapy.  Don't ever laugh at someone who uses therapy to get help. You don't know their story.  Many suffer from mental abuse,  sexual abuse, trauma,  have had mental abuse in childhood from family or who knows who, physical abuse,  abusive partners, anxiety, depression, PTSD, and the list can go on. Find someone you feel comfortable talking to. Keep a journal.  Write poetry. Color in a coloring book. Try deep breathing. Listen to music.  Sit outside for 30 minutes a day.  Take a walk. Do what makes you comf

 Stop listening to negative people. They will tell you that you can't do it.  Yes, you can do it. You might fail and give up. At least you can say you tried. Trying your best is all you can do and hope for. Other people's expectations of you don't matter. Stop listening to people say you won't do it. It's up to you.  Stop listening to people who make people feel bad about themselves to feel good about themselves. Stop giving negative people and toxic people attention. So many make toxic and negative people famous.  Quit feeding the toxic and negative behavior in person or on social media. People should be ashamed of how they treat others yet they aren't ashamed. We are all guilty of making bad choices and decisions of where we talked about someone.  Even I am guilty of this and anyone who says they aren't is lying.  It gets out of hand. You have plenty who talk behind each other's backs but wouldn't say it to their face. Sadly some who dish wouldn

 People you are not a burden to others and anyone who tells you that has problems and wants you to be miserable. You deserve to have people to call and text or go see without feeling that way. People who say bad things about you, it is a reflection of themselves bit you. You have the right to feel comfortable hanging out and people listen without being judgemental picks who are going to cause you some trauma. They want to play the victim when in reality they are the narcissists or just down right toxic people.  You deserve healthy friendships and relationships with people who respect you and your boundaries. Don't be sorry you call,text, or see friends.  Don't be sorry for how you feel. You are aloud to feel that way. Don't let others make you feel like you aren't worth it because you are worth it and you aren't a burden. 

 Some people come and go in your life. Don't keep people in your life if you are miserable. Some people act like friends but they truly aren't for you.  You meet many different people in your life.  Some are good for you and bad for you.  Some tell you nice things to weasel their way into your life and tear it apart. Not all are going to support you.  Some listen to what others say about you rather than ask you.  Some can't handle the truth because it hurts.  If all they bring is negativity and drain you they aren't worth your time. Mental scars take longer to heal than physical even though they equally hurt.

 Sometimes we don't listen to our gut even though it's like red flag and get away. We have a tendency to ignore the gut and red flags that people give us with how they act and behave. Stop ignoring the gut. It isn't lying to you. It is picking up on that bad energy and saying get far far away. Listen to it. Watch the red flags and don't ignore them either.  It might save your mental health or physical health or for other reasons.   

 Happy Valentines Day!!❤❤❤⚘⚘⚘

Valentines Day isn't all about what you get or what you want.  It isn't about making people feel guilty about what they got you. This is what is going on. So many focus about what they do or don't get. It should be about the people you care about in your life and it coming from the heart. Don't make someone feel bad if they didn't do anything for you.  It should be about love. 

  What others think of you doesn't matter.  Everyone is always going to have an opinion and be all judgey. People are going to talk about you. Let them. Keep being the best you and don't let the opinions of others ruin your life. Keep shining. They might be jealous.  It's possible they insecure in their own life. They want you to be as miserable as they are in their life. No matter what the case may be keep doing you and tune them out.

 Do what makes you happy rather than make others happy all of the time or you will be left miserable.  Not everyone supports you the same as you support them. Some want to secretly see you fail. Some will tell you waht what to do in your life yet won't take the advice they are giving you.  Everyone is going to have an opinion about your life. You will have haters. Just do the best you can. Keep trying. Trying your best is an effort. Some people are miserable and just want to drag you down with them. Don't let them dull your shine. 

 I hope you all have a wonderful February and may all your dreams and goals come true. 

 Sometimes in life you just want people to listen and not say anything.  Some of them make comments about you should try this or do that,yet it's like they heard you but didn't actually listen.  They tell you what you should do in your life, how you should do things in your relationships,  and the list goes on. Some of the ones giving you advice aren't happy in their own lives and aren't trying to change either. I've been guilty of that as well but I also try to tell them you don't have to take my advice and I am not trying to tell you what to do. Sometimes people understand and sometimes they don't at all. What's even worse than that is the statement I know how you feel. No,you don't know how I feel because you are not me and I am not you so I am not going to claim I know.

 Don't listen to those people who tell you get over it. More than likely they haven't struggled like you.  Some think it's so easy to get over things and move on. What they fail to realize we would like to move forward but we are stuck in our own mind. Everyone copes different.  Not one person is like another.  We all have different struggles, mental health problems,  life problems,  and traumas. Sometimes time doesn't heal us. It is the people who listen and take time to understand along with coping skills.  Be kind to people and don't tell people to get over it. Try to be understanding.