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Do you live life the way you want

Do you live the life you want to live? Do you just do what others expect you to do? Are you doing the things you love to do? Are you with an actual partner you love? Are you happy in the job you have? Do you stay in friendships and relationships that make you miserable? Do you eat the food you love? Do you do the things in life that make you happy? If the answer is no guess what you need to start living life and change that. Do what makes you happy. Who cares what others think. People need to stop having expectations of others. Be with someone who loves you for with no judges and there through bad and good. Stop staying in relationships if you are miserable even if you have kids. Kids pick up on their parents fighting and not getting along which isn't healthy for the kids. If you don't like your job find another one. If you don't eat food you like start making it yourself and experiment. If you aren't Do the things you love to do now you are cheating yourself. Work on y

Reached a goal

 Good news is that I reached my goal that I set for myself this month which was to sell 2 books. I accomplished selling 2 books.  I am very happy about that. Thank you to those who have bought books.

Happy Memorial Day

 Happy Memorial Day Everyone!! Have a wonderful day and night.  Be safe.

People have become so detached

 People have become so detached in the world and they blame covid. Yes, I believe that covid helped because we were stuck indoors but it started happening way before covid little by little.  Once people had internet and cell phones they started becoming more and more distant. Less sleep overs or hanging out face to face in person.  They face time each other or just text and barely talk on the phone so the communication is usually misunderstood or took out of context. People are sometimes down right ugly or cruel to each other through social media. Sometimes it can be used to be helpful and other times very harmful. We need to learn how to spend time together with people again because it is important to have healthy relationships with family, partners, and friends. 

You're allowed to feel what you want

 You are allowed to feel what you feel about anything you are feeling in your life. Don't let others tell you otherwise.  Your feelings are valid. Your feelings do matter.  Express them how you need to express them. If you need help get the help you need. I do not condone violence or harming yourself.  There are lots of coping skills that can help. Medication help some people and do not shame people or make people feel bad if they choose to take it. It is not a magical pill that fixes everything.  Therapy also helps people and don't shame people for seeing a therapist.  If you have a bad therapist try another one or try a support group of some sort.  We all sometimes need help. You can not help fix and save people who don't want to be fixed and saved. Keep trying your best.

Who cares what others think of you

 Who cares what other people think of you.  It is what you think of yourself that matters. Don't let others make you feel less. Do not let them take space up in your head. Do not allow others to control how you feel.  You deserve love.  You deserve the best. You deserve to be accepted as you are.  If they don't like you for you then they are not worth your time and energy.  Keep being you for you. Love you.  Keep trying.  You are worth it .

Congratulations 2023 high school graduates

 Congratulations to all you 2023 high school graduates. Do what makes you happy in life. Change is hard.  Don't give up on your dreams and goals. Try your best. If you want to get a job get a job. If you want to go to go to trade school go to trade school. If you want to learn a new skill learn a new skill.  If you want to go to college go to college. Make your own choices.  It is your life. Way to go. 

Take time out when overwhelmed

 When you feel overwhelmed take a time out for yourself. Take deep breaths.  Take a nap if you have to.  Take a shower or relaxing bath. Remind yourself that it will and can get better.  I know sometimes things pile up and it is very overwhelming and stressful.  Ask for help if you need it and do not feel ashamed to ask. Sometimes in life we all need help. Keep trying your best. Don't give up hope.

Be kind to you

 Sometimes bad things happen to us and it can cause us depression, anxiety,  trauma, PTSD, and etc. No one has the right to shame you. They don't have the right to make you feel bad about it. Don't beat your own self up over it. Get help if you need help. Take care of yourself.  Keep trying.  Allow yourself to heal. Use those coping skills. Do what is best for you. Be kind to yourself. 

There will always be haters

There are always going to be people who hate. Let them hate. That is their personal problem not your problem.  Keep being the best you that you can be. Do what makes you happy.  They are unhappy and insecure in their own life. Don't let how they feel about you effect you. Surround yourself with positive, loving, caring,  and accepting people.  Some people will always try to say bad things about you. Ignore them. They are not worth your time or energy or effort. Just be you and keep trying.  There will always be haters. They must be jealous of your life. That is their problem.  You can't make everyone happy. 

Happy Mother's Day

 Happy Mother's Day to all you moms out there.  Keep doing your best. Keep trying.  Your best is good enough.  Don't forget to take care of yourself.  Pamper yourself if you want too. Take a nap, eat the foods you enjoy, watch your favorite shows or movies,  take a relaxing bath, and do what you love doing. 

Stop trying to prove yourself

 Sometimes people go around saying I'm a nice guy or I'm a nice woman. Nice people don't have stuff to prove to others. Are you really that nice?  What are you hiding? What are you trying to prove? Actions speak a lot louder than words and sometimes words can be hurtful.  Just be yourself.  You have some who claim they are the nicest people and then you get to know them. I am not saying that you might not be nice people. Then some are like why do people run over us or take advantage of us. People prey on people.  Then you have some who say they are nice but they are gaslighting you or narcissistic who want control and play the victim.  Be yourself. Stop worrying so much of what others think of you.  Be kind without needing someone to stroke your ego or help with your insecurities that you might be projecting.  There are good men and women for everyone to be friends with or even have a partnership.  It isn't all about who is nice or mean. It is about forming something th

You do matter and are worth it

 You as a person matter.  Guess what? You don't need others to tell you or make you feel that you matter.  You don't need others to make you feel like you are worth it. You are worth it. If they are making you feel less that is their problem not your problem. Some project their insecurities.  Others are gaslighting you. Others are narcissistic. Some want control. Don't give them that power or control.  They are preying on your vulnerabilities. Keep being you for you.  Keep trying.  Keep shining. You do matter. It is okay to set boundaries with people. It is okay to say no. It is okay to cut people out of your life.  Believe in yourself not what others say or think of you.

Message for people graduating

 All you graduates graduating high school right now and years to come you did it. If you take a gap year and get a job don't let people make you feel bad for your choice. If you choose to go away to college go for it. If you choose trade school that is a choice. Don't let your family, girlfriends, boyfriends,  school, or whomever make you feel like you don't have choices and that you have to choose their way. It is your life. Do what makes you happy.  I know it can all be overwhelming. Senioritis is real. That I am so over being a senior All you graduates graduating high school right nowand you did it. If you take a gap year and get a job don't let people make you feel bad for your choice. If you choose to go away to college go for it. If you choose trade school that is a choice. Don't let your family, girlfriends, boyfriends,  school, or whomever make you feel like you don't have choices and that you have to choose their way. It is your life. Do what makes you

Spend time with friends in person

 Spending time with your friend in real life is important.  You need that face to face time. You need that time in person. Play games, talk, eat food together, and do stuff you both like doing.  The interaction face to face is important.  It helps both of you in many ways. Hug each other if you can. Be silly together.  Laugh together.  It will help you in other parts of your life by spending time with people in person.  Have cook outs. Encourage each other.  Don't spend your whole time on phone when spending time with your friends.  You need time to connect to where you don't feel disconnected. We all need healthy relationships with our friends. People who hang out and do things with.  Go to the lake, have bonfires,  picnics, just talk about anything and everything, movie nights ,trade books, bowling,  go for walks,  or whatever it may be. Make time for real life friends.  If they are internet friends that doesn't mean that one day you won't ever meet and if you want to

Don't let others make you feel bad for blocking or cutting others out of your life

 If you have to cut people out of your life don't let others make you feel bad about your decision.  Do not let others make you feel bad for blocking people out of your life. You have the right to do so. It is your own personal choice.  Some may have been ugly to you,  toxic, negative,  emotional dumpsters, everything might be all about them, unsolicited advice,  telling you what to do, controlling,  manipulative, gaslight, narcissistic, emotionally abusive, not supportive,  doesn't listen,  thinks the world revolves around them,and etc. You don't owe anyone an explanation on why you block them or cut them out of your life. You don't owe anyone anything.  You did it for your own peace. To get peace.  To get away from bad situations.  To get your life back possibly.  To heal. To not be triggered. To not walk on eggshells.  You have the right to inner peace and happiness.  You deserve positive friends and relationships where you feel safe. You deserve friends and relation

The world doesn't revolve around any of us

 Don't expect people to always text or call you first.  If they care or love you make time to check up on them first every now and then. The world doesn't revolve around any of us. Don't make it such a habit for others to always check on you because it isn't fair to others. That's why some think people don't care or think am I a burden when in reality they are not. They also think am I a bother.  No they are not. This is how people have made them feel though.  Everyone's feelings matter.  If you don't want to talk or your busy in life just tell people,  I am busy or I don't want to talk. Don't expect them to wait around for you to call or text them for the rest of their lives. That goes the same for going to see people.  Don't expect people to always come see you. Go see them. Make an effort if you want to be in their lives. The world does NOT revolve around any of us. 

Its okay to put yourself first

 Sometimes you have to put yourself before others and that is not selfish.  Your mental and physical health is important.  They are linked together.  Sometimes people don't ask how we are before emotional dumping. Sometimes we check up on everyone and they don't check up on us. Sometimes we bend over backwards for people who wouldn't bend over backwards for us. Some people just drain our energy.  Sometimes we care and love people who care and love us who support us equally but still need time to ourselves to focus on us and there is nothing wrong with that.  Take care of yourself. 

You matter

 Don't listen to people who say get over it. Stop listening to people who call you crazy. You don't just get over what you are feeling.  You are allowed to feel what you feel.  You are not crazy.  Stop listening to people who call you lazy. Sometimes we need extra rest. The house work and other life stuff can be put on hold if you need to rest.  Your feelings matter.  You  matter.  Anyone who makes you feel like they don't matter needs to be cut out of your life. You don't need people who are going to make you feel bad about yourself.  We get in our own heads and tell our own selves that we aren't worth it when we are worth it. Tell ourselves we don't deserve the best when we do. We call ourselves lazy when in reality we are not. Tell ourselves we're ugly when we aren't ugly. Call ourselves all kinds of names that we are not. We are not the labels of society that people have put on us whether it be our family,  friends, or people off social media.  We ar

Not everyone is going to support you equally

 Just because people don't support you the same way you do them don't let that change you.  Don't let it get you discouraged.  Don't let it turn you cold and make it to where you don't care about people.  Continue being yourself.  Keep being kind and caring.  Don't give up hope.  Keep shining. Not everyone is going to support you equally.  Not everyone is going to always be there. We aren't entitled and the world doesn't revolve around any of us. Just keep being you. People have lives and sometimes get busy. If they care and love you they will make time for you. 

Do something nice for you

 Do something nice for you every day to take care of you. It can be as simple as taking a bath.  It could be reading that book you love. Take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself.  Remind yourself that it can get better.  Remind yourself that you are worth it.  Watch that show,  eat your favorite food, blow bubbles, colors, make music, make art, or whatever you love.  Do it for you.

Update on my current book

 I have currently been working on a book about a Tribrid. She didn't know her ancestors were the 1st Vampires, Witches,and Wolves. She was leading a normal life spending time with her friends and working. She has been hiding and doesn't want to hide any longer.  She is trying to figure out a way for Vampires, Witches,  and Wolves to coexist and it not constantly be a war between the 3.

Sometimes you need a distraction

 Sometimes you need a distraction from the world around you to cope. Sometimes life can be a bit much and gets overwhelming.  That is when you need that self care and distraction.  It might be reading, watching a show, playing a game talking to friends, or whatever you enjoy doing.  Just keep trying your best.

My book sales goal

 My goal this month is to get 2 books sold at the minimum.  I reached my goal of selling 1 last month which makes me happy. Please help me reach my goal this month by sharing my books with your family and friends.  It would be much appreciated.  Here are the links below to share with them. Thank you.  All books are available on Kindle for .99 cents on Kindle. https://www.amazon.com/author/amystark https://www.amazon.com/author/angelicamy

May

 Happy May to you all. May all of you follow your dreams and goals.  I wish you a happy May.  Try your best and don't give up.