Amy Stark's Books

 Sometimes in life people were only meant to stay a short time to teach us a lesson. Some of us hold on to friendships and relationships that we should end because they aren't good or healthy for us. Sometimes we keep excusing their bad behavior for years. We need to stop this vicious cycle. Sometimes we collect more red flags than we should and don't listen to our gut feelings and instincts. It is okay to make mistakes even of repeatedly but just know by then it's a choice we make and live with for the rest of our lives. That doesn't mean we can't change it or fix it. It doesn't mean that you stop caring about these people. Sometimes we outgrow people.  It is okay to get away from abusive, negative, toxic people.  Sometimes it isn't that they are horrible but you just didn't connect.  It's okay to move on. It is okay to for new friendships.  It is okay to change. Change happens. Sometimes you need people who are on the same level as you or same inte

 Friendship is about being there through the bad and good. They actually listen to you. There is no judgment from them about your past and past mistakes.  They don't ever judge you.  Accept you for you. Loves you flaws and all. Someone who checks up on you. People who will keep asking are you really okay and know when you aren't okay. Build you up. Inspire you.  Want to hang out with you. Make time for you even if they are busy. Your kind of crazy. Someone to be silly with. Someone to laugh with. You are comfortable with this person.  A shoulder to cry on. A hug if you need it. Can vent back and forth. They aren't ugly to you. Don't tear you down. Don't tell you how to live your life. Don't talk badly about you.  They won't prey on you.  Real friends root you on and will try to help bring out the best in you.  Set boundaries with all.

 Sometimes life isn't easy. Don't give up on life just because you are going through bad times and things got rough.  Find help if you need help. Look for support groups if you need to. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Don't be so hard on yourself.  Be kind to yourself.  I know it isn't easy. I know it's easy to overthink.  I know Sometimes we end up in a dark place. There is hope for you.  Allow yourself to heal. Give yourself time to heal. Dig deep if you have to. Talk about the things that make you feel uncomfortable to let it all out. Don't bottle it up inside.  Do what is best for you. 

 Thank you all who support me, read my work, listen to me, and do much more.

 Sometimes your family and friends tell you that they are okay or alright as a response even when they truly aren't okay. Check up on your family and friends. Make sure how they are really doing. Some of them feel like they are bothering people. Some feel like a burden to others. Some feel like that because they check up on everyone but who is checking up on them?!?! Some listen to everyone else's problems and think should I share mine. They hear people say they care and love them but sometimes aren't shown.  Some get people who fake care and fake love them. If you truly do care the phone to call and text works both ways just like going to see people.  Some bottle their feelings because they wonder do people care about them and with how some have treated them they are very unsure. Make an effort for people who make an effort. Make time for people who truly love,care, and make an effort to be there for you. 

 Don't let people take advantage of your kindness or they will do it repeatedly.  You don't deserve to be used. You don't deserve people walking all over you thinking you are a doormat when you aren't.  Set boundaries with people.  Tell people no if you have to. Of they don't respect that you say no they don't respect you.  You deserve good people who are kind back. Don't let others use you. You do deserve the best. Cut them out of your life if they can't respect you. Don't let these people turn you cold hearted. They will try.

 Don't let your life pass you by. You have to live your life. Do the things you enjoy doing.  Do not put it off tomorrow. Talk to family and friends. Spend it with people you care about.  Check up on them. Be silly. Laugh. Watch your favorite shows. Listen to your music.  Play games. Relax in a bath. Sit outside.  Walk. Read. Write your own story.  Have fun. Don't be serious all the time. Tell people you care or love them. Give hugs. Be creative.  Do what you love doing in life.

 Sometimes it is hard to love ourselves. We are worth it though even on the days we feel that we aren't worth it we are. We do deserve the best. Sometimes people say that we aren't worth it so we believe them. We need to retrain our thoughts and know that isn't true.  They say we're ugly and believe them. It isn't true that we are ugly. They label us and we believe the labels they put on us. We aren't the labels that they put on us. We deserve to be accepted the way we are. Deserve to be loved as we are.  Love you for you. Don't let the cruel world hate yourself because that is what they want.  They want you to be as miserable and insecure as them. Build yourself up. Keep trying.  Shine bright like you are meant to. Love yourself inside and out. Stop being so hard on you. Be kind to you.

 I finished writing the newest poetry book.  I have one edited and have to edit it one more time for another format to publish it. I will let you all know when it's published so you can see the final touches. 

Sometimes it is hard for us to see our own worth. We are worth it even if we think we aren't worth it. Don't let others determine your self worth. Do not let them make you feel like you aren't worth it. You are worth it. You do deserve the best. Sometimes we have to get out of our head. It is about retraining your thinking. Keep being the best you. 

 Happy Valentines Day to all you beautiful people.  Even if you are single love you and pamper yourself.  For the couples you don't have to buy expensive gifts to show you care. A gift should come from heart. Do massage, run a bath,  picnic, movie night, game night, cook them dinner,  and be creative. 

 Life sometimes gets hard and you may want to give up on yourself. Don't give up on yourself. I know it might be hard. You are worth it. Keep trying.  Do self care. Work on mental health.  Do small things. Get out of bed. Take a shower.  Do the stuff you love doing.  Don't listen to what others say badly about you.  Keep trying your best and it is good enough.

 People will drain your energy if you allow them to.  Do not let them take up space in your head. Do not allow them that kind of control. Some will only bring drama to your life. If you do no like the drama cut the drama out, ignore it,  block it, and don't pay it attention. Some will only emotionally dump on you without asking if you are doing okay. Cut those people out of your life. Some will use you.  Others will only be around when things are good. Pay attention.  Don't let people drain you like a Vampire. They will suck the life out of you. They will trigger you. They will prey on you.  Surround yourself with people who are positive and will build you up. Surround yourself with people who listen.  You deserve good people in your life. 

 Don't let others make you feel like you can't accomplish your dreams or goals.  These people are negative and do not want to see you succeed. If they did they would be supportive rather than saying the negative stuff that they do. It os okay to fail.  Don't give up hope.  Keep trying.  Trying your best is good enough.  There will always be people waiting to see you fail and talk crap. Ignore them. Cut them out of your life. Surround yourself with good people  with like minded goals who help support and motivate you. Surround yourself by people who inspire you to be your best self. Be your best self for you.  Set small goals and work on them. You can do it. Put sticky notes around the house saying you can do it or message on your phone. Don't give up on yourself.  It is your dreams and goals.  Work on them. You got this.

 Don't apologize to others for their bad behavior.  You have nothing to be sorry about.  They want you to feel like it is always your fault and that they are the victim.  They want you to feel like you need them. They will say what they can and get in your head. They use your words against you. They are making you feel like you aren't worth it. Make you feel like you aren't enough.  Like everything is your fault and they do no wrong. You deserve better.  You are worth it. Stop apologizing when there is no problem or for what other people put you through. Cut people who treat you like you should constantly apologize out of your life.

 Do not let people control you. They will control every part of your life if you let them. They will tell you what to do. It is your life not theirs. They will try to control what you buy, tell you how to live your life, and etc. Stop listening.  Speak your mind. Put your foot down.  They will steam roll you if they get a chance. Don't give them the opportunity.  They will play the victim when they can't control you. They will play poor pitiful me. Ignore it. Tune it out.  Run from these people. Cut them out of your life. Some of these people try to isolate you from others. Do not cut your good friends and family who care about you out of your life for anyone.  Cut these controlling people out. Control mean power and once they have that power they abuse it and you. You do not need that. Cut them out. Ignore them.  Block them. Move on with your life. 

 To many people in this world want to be bullies these days and it is ridiculous. Stop excusing this bad behavior.  It is not okay for people to tear people down. It is not okay to talk about people's weight.  It is not okay to call people lazy. It is not okay to say bad things about people with a disability.  It is not okay to make fun of someone's name. It is not okay to taunt people. It is not okay to shame people.  The list goes on of what is not okay and acceptable.  Stop excusing bad behavior.  Stand up for people who can't defend themselves or if they aren't there to defend themselves.  If you don't you might as well be as bad as the bully if you don't say anything. People are struggling on their own without your help. They don't need bullies. They pick their own lives a part. Start being kind to others. You don't like it done to you so don't do it to others. The world is a cruel enough place without people spreading hate and venom. If people

 Hope you all have an amazing Friday!! Hope you have a wonderful month. May all your dreams and goals come true.