We should celebrate the lives of those we lose

 When we lose someone it's like a nightmare we can't wake from. Some will tell us they know how we feel and they truly don't know how we feel because they aren't us. They can only have an understanding of it. We all cope and handle it differently. Not one person handles it or goes through the same motions at the same time and it can cause people to butt heads. There are days you just want to be numb and feel nothing. Days you don't want to get out of bed. Sometimes eat your feelings or self medicate. Days that you just want to blow up and it doesn't take much. The days where you want to cry and wonder will the tears ever stop. People say it gets easier and it doesn't really. You learn to cope. Telling stories of the ones we lose is what keeps them alive. It is about the stories and pictures. Sometimes we feel like we are going to forget them so we do everything in our power to keep their memories alive. Some of us light a candle in memory of them. Others celebrate their loved ones birthdays even after they are gone. Many of us do different things to cope.  Sometimes a song, place, or smell can trigger memories. It should be about celebrating their life.