People deal with grief differently

 Everyone heals from pain and grief in their own way. When people say in time no one wants to hear that because there is no set time limit when it comes to pain and grief. There are days that are going to be good and bad. Sometimes you might get lost and feel like you are in a dark place that you don't want to come out of. There is no wrong or right way to mourn a loss. There will be days you will be mad, sad, happy, and many other emotions. You might have the feelings of why me? The why did you leave me behind. Days where you want to talk to them but can't anymore. Sometimes you want to blame them, yourself, or others for being gone. Days where you don't want to get out of bed.  The days that all you do is cry. Small things trigger you. Sometimes feel guilty about trying to move forward and being happy. There are days you are happy to remember memories about them and you are over the moon just to remember those things. Sometimes you are a rollercoaster of emotions. It is okay to celebrate the ones who passed. Us telling stories about them is what keep their memories alive for us and others. There is no right thing to say to people when they lose someone. They do need support from people they care about to check up on them and see how they are holding up because sometimes things just get to rough and to real to cope with. They might not want to deal with reality and there is nothing wrong with it. Sometimes it takes people time to come out of the shock. It might take days, months, or years to accept it and in reality sometimes we don't fully accept it and there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes talking helps, playing music, going to a favorite place, or other things help heal people. We don't want those peoples memories to fade away and sometimes they do and it is very sad to us because we always want to remember. They will always live in our hearts. The stories of our loved ones is what keep them alive along with pictures. Pictures are like memories captured in time.