Sometimes you have to stop giving multiple chances

Sometimes we give people multiple chances yet they don't see the multiple chances that we are giving them. They cross boundaries.  Say things that are hurtful and we should not have to tell them it is hurtful.  Unsolicited advice that we didn't ask for when we just needed someone to listen.  Being told what they think we should do in our lives when we didn't ask. Sometimes people need to learn to just listen.  Sometimes it is because you always ask how they are doing first and they don't ever ask you or make time. The world doesn't revolve around any of us. Some emotional dump to much and don't even ask are you okay before they start dumping.  Sometimes we have to say enough is enough. Eventually it takes a toll on your mental health and it is not okay for people to treat you poorly.  It is not okay for people to walk all over you.  It is not okay for them to disrespect your boundaries. It is not okay for them to use you. It is not okay for them to emotionally dump on you.  It is not okay for people to tell you who you can and can not be friends with and make you choose between them or another person.  It is not okay for people to drag you in their drama. It is okay to tell people no. It is okay to cut people out of your life whether it be a partner,friend, or family member.  It is okay to block people.  You don't owe people an explanation for their bad behavior.  Stop condoning bad behavior.  If people want to fix it and talk through it they will.  It doesn't make them childish if they chose to ignore or block people for their own inner peace.  Some people don't like confrontation and conflict and sometimes it just creates more conflict and confrontation. Don't shame people for their decisions. 

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