Relationships and deserving the best

 When it comes to your relationships don't let people tell you what to do. Make your own decisions.  Get to know them and don't jump head first.  Jumping head first can lead to bad decisions.  It is still your choice and decision.  If you have a bad gut feeling don't ignore it.  Your gut won't ever point you in the wrong direction.  Don't ignore red flags. Communication is key. If you feel like you aren't safe get out as soon as possible.  Some will tell you they love you when they don't really.  Make promises they don't keep. Accuse you of cheating. They lie to you.  Use you for a place to stay or money or whatever they can get out of you.  They belittle.  They play the victim.  Isolate you from your family and friends.  Make you feel crazy.  Some only go through the emotional abuse.  Some go through physical abuse.  Some go through both. It is okay to cut toxic people out.  It is okay to end unhappy relationships. It is okay to defend yourself.  It is okay to end bad relationships with boyfriend's, girlfriend's, family, or whoever. No one has the right to question you for ending toxic and bad relationships.  It is no one's business but your own. If you feel unsafe get help.  If you feel like you can't escape find people who can help.  There are many resources out there.  No one should feel unsafe or trapped in a bad relationship.  No one deserves to feel less than what they are.  Everyone deserves love and happiness. No one should have to feel like they are useless, worthless, and the many other things people say about them.  Just know that each and every one of you deserves to shine in a healthy relationship with significant others, family, and friends.  It is okay to block people on social media,  block phone numbers,  ignore people,  walk away from them,  move out, or whatever you have to do. Don't let others make you feel bad for your decisions.  You are the one who has to live with it at the end of the day and if you have to escape do so. If you need help ask for help.  See a therapist,  psychiatrist, church, or whoever can help.  If you need to bring the law into it to get out and escape do so. You shouldn't have to live in fear or like you are walking on egg shells.  Stop trying to please everyone.  We can't help or fix those who won't help or fix themselves.  I know it's rough sometimes.  You can heal and survive. Take time to get to know people whether they are going to be a friend or significant other. Make boundaries and if they can't respect them let them go. Just keep trying to be the best you.  You deserve the best life has to offer. 

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